If you cannot imagine yourself whole while being alone, then it seems unlikely that you will be whole while being with someone else.
I realize that this is a lot easier for me to say now that I’ve found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I don’t think it could’ve happened without being OK with spending the rest of my days alone.
There is much wonder in the world, much to see, much to do, much to explore, much to create. I will not deny that it is even more wondrous that I can share the world with my love, but I would not have found my love without realizing this in the first place.
It’s a tricky thing, to be OK with being alone but at the same time being open to the possibility of love.
I can’t tell you how to get there. I can only tell you that it’s possible.